Emotional Atyachar

Yesterday as I showed one of the shirts to my friend, he mentioned this kind of clothes is worn by one of the colleagues who used to work with us. That reminded me that I was trying his number a couple of days ago and then on his birthday and no one would pick up the phone.

Later as I mentioned this to my friend, he told me that his number got changed and he made a call to him. It definetly feels good to talk someone from the past. What made me more happy that he was doing good.

On the same day, I happened to call one of my colleagues who send the same SMS twice, with the only change in the second being that he has become an agent of one of the insurance companies.

Let me tell you the stories of three individuals:

The Low-Esteem Guy

A few years back, I remember telling my friend that I don't think that my first colleague (lets call him Ashu) would ever get a job else where. he was senior to me by a couple of months when I joined in. Though he was good to be around with. He was always picked on, even by the juniors so that they could have some fun. He suffered from low self esteem. I often find myself wondering what made him turn out like this.

Nothing would dampen his spirit though. As I moved in a different department, I heard stories that people were treating him badly. It did made me feel bad, but this is life, you have to learn to stand up to the world. Later he surprised everyone by quitting his job and joined another firm. No body including me expected that to happen.

Couple of months down the line, we talked and I came to know that he is having a good time. In fact he even went abroad. It is good to know that everything work out well for him.

The Silent Spectator

This guy (lets call him Ayaz) had a name from the training days itself. His score were low during the training, when he got a warning from the trainers that he would be removed from the batch unless his score meet the requirements. From then on there was a complete change in his scores, he scored much better than his earlier one.

Once on the floor, his silence stumped many. This guy thought a lot before answering to a simple question too. Giving him work required constant supervision as he had a tendency to goof up big time. The funniest part when at one time in the middle of the work, he was asked by the supervisor what he was doing and he did not remembered what he did.

He stood apart and others would pick on him from time to time. I stood for him when the comments got really harsh. He did had a very good logical thinking but what got on the nerves was the lack of carrying a task on his own.

Going by the way he was, I thought he might be soon be on the way out as nothing worked. Even after been given a refresher course he was showing very little signs of improvement. I kept asking him what were his plans for the future as I knew that he might be headed towards trouble in the future.

It is really by god grace that he is still holding the job. After having a chat, I came to know that he is planning on a back up in case anything goes wrong and that now he is giving it back to people who make fun of him. He is now on his way to become a father.

The God's Child

She is really special. I wonder if she is even aware of her abilities. Lets call her Rose. She is good at her job. Again making friends is something she is not good at. The only thing that goes against her that she is a complete introvert and always keeps on complaining :))

I remember having a talk with her, when she asked me how come people who are deserving don't get what they should? I had no answers for her back then and even now. She had just got appraised and came to know that she lagged behind a guy who got better appraised than her not because he was a good performer (he was way bad compared to her) but was closer to the people in position. She was very angry.

She wrote the most beautiful poems I ever read. Here is a girl whom you never see talking and coming up with such brilliant work. I loved her poems, so thoughtful and deep, reflected what lies beneath the skin. The last time I spoke to her, she was still complaining about additional responsibilities given to her. Though writing poems has stopped as she hardly gets the time. I am still waiting for her to email the poems.

The reason I mentioned them here is because these are individuals who are considered "not worth enough" to be friends. Their faults is that they expose their vulnerabilities which makes them the easy pickings for any one who wants to have fun.

I do hate it when that happens. As you grow up, you have to learn stand up on your feet. I am not sure if they are aware that they can overcome their shortcomings. I do hope that they do.

Is God Communicating with Me?

That is the thought that comes to my mind when I find coming across something that I was thinking about.

Often it has happened that a thought pops up in my head and the next moment I see ads/banners/read text or hear something that would be related to it. Funnily, it does makes a point. I am not sure how it happens but it does.

Today, the same thing happened. I had this thought in my mind all day long and in the evening as I went through the papers again, I found this article which used the same words that were in my mind.

I am reminded of the incident when I was watching the movie "Yes Boss" with my family where Shahrukh's mom makes an appearance in the climax scene. At that very moment I blurted out "How did his Mom knew where they were?" and the very next moment Ashok Saraf appears on the screen and tells "I brought here her, I knew this question would be asked".

We often question about God existence and its presence. We never see him because we are so lost in our world that even if help arrives at the door, we don't open it as the door bell ringing is shunted by our trouble thoughts.

I guess God communicates in our way when we question or ponder over something. The only thing you have to do is notice it.

Similar Faces, Similiar Features?

Have you ever come across a face you thought looked similar to someone but they were not the one you thought them to be. Ever wondered how two totally different people can have the same facial features and yet they are not related.

It is said that there are seven different people who look similar to you. Somehow I did found similar faces to people that I know that made me wonder if what is said truly exists.

Every celebrity has a look-a-like who shares some feature with them. I do wonder if this is just restricted to just facial features or is there something more to it.

We happen to have certain points across our face which determines our facial appearance. The twins probably comes close to this phenomenon as they share the same genes, but what about people who are not connected by genes and end up looking like a carbon copy of someone.

The thought came to me when I started seeing look-a-like of people I know. I am not sure if science has got this figured out, but it did made me curious how two people who are living in different parts of the world and still end up looking similar. Does God have limited set of faces that he can give to his children (humans), that at the end some of us looking similar?

I have a tendency to observe people, sometimes they are so uncannily similar that they also tend behave in a similar manner. I am totally amazed how that could be possible. I have a colleague of mine who talks very politely and seems to have a high EQ. It was in one of those first official society meeting that I attended (which was quite a bore as I found myself lost in a group full of older men). There sitting on the rear end, I saw this uncle in the front row, who lives in our building having a similar face to my friend. What amazed me further was the mannerism he displayed. For a moment I really wondered if he is related to him. This was not the only case I came across, there was one another too.

I keep reading about studies being conducted on silly things. I think its time that someone did a study on this one and find whether there is more than meets to the eye……

Hope the next time when you come across some one similar you know, watch them carefully and do let me know if you agree with me or not.

Mysteries of the World

Do you ever wonder if there is more to the world than we can see? Often I end up reading up some stories on the web on historical monuments, mysteries unexplained and sometimes see them on Discovery or National Geographic Channel.

It does make me wonder and take notice of it. I am simply amazed by the Pyramids of Giza. Imagine building something like that at a time when there was no technology to support them with astrological precision. Think about the Nazca lines or for that matter the Black knight satellite or the Easter Island statues.

I wish I could have been a explorer and go and find out more about this places. Our modern day depicts that we are heavily dependent on technology and run after the money for our bread & butter. Who knows someday if I do have enough moolah with me, I might make a TV series on such anomalies. Pray that I do :)

P.S: You can click on the names of the places to know more about the same. Also check out the below links, you won't be disappointed.

Unsolved Mysteries of the World
Mysteries of the Ancient World
World Mysteries

I Love ........

I love it. It is the image above that I am talking about. I should have been a copywriter. Don't know what I am doing here. That is the feeling that sometimes I get.

The image could soon be the face of a company news letter name if approved. My friend told me yesterday that there was a competition in his organization to suggest a title for the newsletter and asked me to come up with something that he could send in.

At first, I was not sure if I wanted to do it, but then I said what the heck lets give it a shot (as I dreamed of being in the ad world, I thought this could be a good time to judge, if I can come up with something in a short time). The deadline was of today.

Asked my friend to forward me the newsletter and then voila I came up this after mixing up the font face of the text and with the help of a google search got the right image. The only thing that you are not seeing is the company name which appears in the place of the text on the glass. I came up with four different look for the same title and this was the last and the best of the lot.

I am keeping my fingers crossed hoping it makes it to the top (and lay my hands on my share of the prize).

Wondering whether this would be a good time to change my profession.....

Follow Your Instincts

“Learn to let your intuition (gut instinct), tell you

when the food, the relationship, the job isn't good for you
(and conversely when, what you are doing is just right).”

— Oprah Winfrey

I screamed a loud "Amma" and felt my body moving forward from my sleeping position and saw her laying down near the window of our bedroom. She saw me and had a smile on her face. I got up to see what happened. The others too woke up hearing my scream. I asked her what happened and why was she sitting there. She said nothing happened. It was only moments later that we realized blood was oozing out through her head. We called up the doctor and did the needful.

Amma is the one who gets up early than any of us. She has the habit of opening up the windows, the first thing in the morning. Apparently she was doing that and she felt unconscious and may have hit the window during her fall in the process. This incident took place around a few years back. Even today when I think of it, I cannot explain the way I got up from my sleep and screamed. I felt a jerk on my body. I wonder what would have happened, if it would have been otherwise.

Some things are beyond explanations. No matter how much you make an effort, there is no way of finding it out the answers. There is more to life than just living it out.

I am not sure if I have the gift of sixth sense, but certain instances does makes me wonder about it. My family calls me a "Devil" as I always land up whenever they are asking where I am. This has happened so often that I should be able to live a couple hundred years (I would prefer to assume that I am still youthful). A few days back, one of my friends called me up after a long time. Before that I was thinking about calling him up. This has happened many a times that where I found myself thinking about my friends and then rings the phone bell that day or after a few days or we end up meeting each other. All of these thoughts have been out of the blue and this is just not related to people but other issues which has nothing do with my present but would corp up after my thought.

I am a little lethargic and slow in my actions and most of the time my family have scraped me with their sound bytes. When I do make a honest attempt to do finish the work at hand, there would be no requirement of it or the problem vanishes into thin air. My sister often reminds me that.

One of the observations that I have made over the years is that these thoughts come and go and won't come on a regular basis, but when it does you know its right which has no rational explanation. Most of the time, I make my decisions from a rational perspective but when I find myself in a lurch, I go with my instincts which has proved right most of the times.

Following one's instincts does save a lot of trouble :))

P.S.: The thought of writing this post came from Riya's post on sixth sense.

A Giver, Not A Receiver

Ever wondered what you are, A Giver or a Receiver. A Giver who makes it possible for others to realize their dreams, make them feel special, help them when they really need it. The Receiver who is someone at the receiving end of the gifts by the Giver..

I know it is said that when you do something for others, don't expect that they should also do the same for you. Coz that changes the whole definition of the Giver and the relationship changes to that of give and take.

What should the Giver do when they are not reciprocated by others (including & excluding the Receiver). Should they cease to be the Giver and give up when they don't receive the help when they needed when they had problems or some one did not make them feel special the way they want to be. What should they do?

My advise to them is to be what they are, coz the Givers are special people for whom making others feel better about themselves is important especially if they are close. There is word of caution though, don't forget yourself in the process and do take good care of yourself. Don't take the bad experiences to the heart, it only makes you wiser, so go back to your old self and spread the joy around.

BTW, who are you, a Giver or Receiver??

Be Careful, of What You Write

For a moment, I just stared at the monitor trying to make sense of what was written by my friend. Just a few days ago, he was making a joke out of it and now when I read what he had wrote, it was a total turn around.

I wrote back to him saying he was taking the joke too seriously and I deleted the scraps that I had written thinking it offended him. The next thing, I know after a few hours he called me up and said that he was only worried that other people might come to know of it. He realized that what he had written sounded very harsh when read. I thought it was good that we talked and sort things out, he is one of my good pals. He was then telling me to scrap the same text and would like others to see it. I thought it would be better to let it go.

In case, you are wondering what cause the sudden rift, all this happened over a girl (nothing bad or offensive). From my experiences I have learned that what you intend to say is different when you put it in writing. It might sound okay to you, but it might end up offending someone who is well-versed with the language. It just takes a "single word" to change the whole meaning of what you meant.

The next time, if you are writing to someone just make sure to read your message twice or thrice, so that it means what you want to convey.

The Road Less Travelled

I am not sure what GOD wants me to do, he sure wants me to walk on the hardest path. I am not afraid of walking down the less travelled path. It is the end which for me most of the times has not been exactly good news. What should one do even after giving your best, you end up nowhere.

I don't have any answers here. It is said that GOD has a plan for everyone and everything that happens is part of the plan. I would like to believe this and hope he also has a plan for me.

Hope he is listening........

Why are Girls so.....

I remember my friend asking me if I have found my Jaya Bhaduri yet, I replied in negative almost giving off a sheepish smile. The conversation took place a few years back and now when I think of it, I might have to settle down for Jaya Bhaduri instead of Aishwariya Rai.

I am not sure if any of you have observed it, but I found that most of the girls are of short stature. There will be only a handful who are above the 5.5' height. I first noticed this when I was in college, where the girls outnumbered the boys in my class. Apart from that all of them could have easily pass of as school students given their short heights.

The average height of an Indian female comes at 5.4' while for the male it stands at 5.7'. I wonder what makes the Indian girl so short. Though I do find that the old generation women were of a good height, it is the today's generation (in their 20's) who are so short in height!!

The trend has definitely not changed. There are very few girls above the average height say 5.7'. The other day, I was standing in a queue to buy forms for a entrance exams where I saw this pretty girl standing way ahead of me, who seem to have just completed her graduation. The girl hardly made it to five feet tall. I found that none of the girls in the queue were even above the average height.

I am wondering if the taller girls have become a rare species these days. I have given up the thought of whom I end up with i.e., Jaya or Aishwariya. What matters is a good heart and not some height to measure them with. The one for whom you will fall for, will always be truly exceptional.

P.S.: In case you are wondering what my height is, I stand at 6.2'