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June 29, 2009

Hard To Believe

I reached her place, and was sitting in the hall with others. After sometime she came out draped in a saree looking beautiful, flowers on her hair and most importantly wearing that beautiful smile that one can hardly forget. I made sure that I capture it with camera.

Somehow I found it hard to sink in the feeling that she was going to get engaged today. Time flies so fast. She belongs to the Sisterhood Clan (I’ll write about that later). She is one with whom I have grown up. I have already started wondering about how life would change with her getting married. I am already feeling that I have got old to write like this :D

We both are of the same age in fact she is just five days older than me and I am the one who has to live with the tag of being the youngest. Whenever such family functions takes place I find myself capable with multiple abilities that I don the role of a photographer, a task master and sometimes carrying out the errands.

I always have a role to play which makes me share the limelight. The first time it happened on Sister II marriage where I had an important role to play. It was captured on video and I was there on the screen for more than a minute with a Mundus (Pagdi/Turban) on my head. The result of this fame was that I got my first marriage proposal. The second time with Sister III was just hilarious; I thought soon we (there were others with me) are going to play rail gaddi around the couple.

This time round I was going to gift clothes to my would-be brother-in-law. As I presented him and we both posed for the cameras, I found it hard to stop smiling as after presenting him the clothes, we again posed with a handshake, kind of make me feel like I was attending a summit. I also had a photo session later with the would-be bride and the sisterhood clan joining, with one missing.

As everyone came on the stage to give their blessing to the couple, in the end I also went up in the end and stood next to my would-be brother-in-law. There was a lot of speculation going on who is taller, him or me. I won hands down :))

As I got down from the stage and stood nearby, one of my brother-in-law’s mother got hold of me. Somehow she seemed to be in awe of me. Every time she sees me and the only thought that comes to her mind is of getting me married. There was also a debate on what height should be my would-be wife, with others pitching in.

We went back to her home later. As I said the feeling was yet to sink in, so I was leaving I kept my hand on her head like an older brother. I am protective about her and am hoping/praying that she is blessed with a happy married life.

I am already wondering whom I should call when I am bored. I always felt better talking to her coz I can talk any nonsense and still not feel foolish. She was my partner in crime. Marriage would change all of that.

I would miss her, or am I already missing her :P


Shwetz said...

i understand what u must have been going through. Was a part of a wedding where I had to play the bride's younger sis.
About the protective part, I have seen her brother feel the same for the bride. Infact all of us- the cousin clan.. memories as they say can sometimes wet ur eyes.. in a happy way ofcourse :)

God bless ur Sister II :)

Anonymous said...

Sweet. Things change but they can always change for the better :)

Adisha said...

Oh my !!I can so relate to this ... I'm sure it's hard on u to imagine how life will change, but trust me, nothing you can think of is how it's goign to actually be ... It changes surely and it still hurts ... but seeing ur loved ones happily married is a joy in itself :D

Best wishes to your sis :D And I might add this post of yours has been very sweet :D

(¯`•._.•[Raaji]•._.•´¯) said...

i m sure that you will still be the same friends that you have been. You just have to give her some time to adjust to her new life.

Cool Blog :-)

Anonymous said...

Aww! You made me feel every one of your feeling!

Things would change but one thing would remain same.. thats the bonf you guys share and the love!

Frankly i hate when anyone talks about mine or my sister's marriage :( I cant stand to think about it.. although offlate my sis talks about it a lot.. its about time she settles and she seems ready.. I know when she finds the right guy.. I would be happy for her.. and yet I dont wanna think about that day!

Rashmi said...

Your sister must be feeling the same way about the entire thing...Give her time to adjust, the bond between you shall remain the same

Rakesh Vanamali said...

A lot changes in life......! Sometimes I wish I stayed a child always!

sujata said...

Ohh I can understand the mixed emotions you are going through, after marriage your sister will have a confidante, and someone else to share her dreams as well as stupidity with. But do not worry, you will still remain her brother, nothing changes that right!! My best wishes to your sister.

d gypsy! said...

nice blog...

hope she has a happy married life and u two stick on as you both had....

Zainab Dhanji said...

Change is inevitable. Life has to move on and take turns at the point we never expected it to take, but this is how it is, like it or not. Although my personal experience is that time heals all, so just wait to get used to the newness of the situation, once u are used to it, it will only hurt eventfully.

Deepali said...

Congratulations :)

Anonymous said...

I can understand the mixed emotions... can be overwhelming too. But, I agree with Raji above, you will still be friends and meet and talk like she was never away :)

And all the comparing of heights is one of the fun things we also see happening at weddings :) Enjoyed reading this post :)

The Survivor said...

@ All

Thank you for your wishes

@ Shwetz

Its Sister V BTW :)

@ Raaji

Welcome to LIFE

Glad that you liked it.

The Survivor said...

@ D Gypsy

Welcome to LIFE

I hope so too :)