The Misfit

Very recently one of my close friends confided into me how he sometimes finds himself at loss of words during an argument even when he knows he is right.

He could think of the wittiest words that he could have said to the other person post the argument. It stands true for most of us wherein words fail us when we need it the most.

 He also informed how he was trying hard to adapt to the reality where he has found himself taken for a ride for being a nice guy. It made me wonder if we all are trying to fill up the so called imperfection in us that makes us unique or stand out among others.

It is not his fault, sometime one just ends up as a misfit if one does not follow the rule of the jungle “Survival of the fittest”.

Let’s be honest and accept that not everyone is cut out for the rat race, some just choose to be in it so that they can have a livelihood.

These are people who are immune to the realities of the world and go by the goodness inside their heart. No matter how many times they have been let down because of it, but they still follow their heart maybe hoping they can change a person or more.

The goodness exists in each one of us but seldom do we look inside ourselves to know our true self.

We keep forgetting that life is not just about earning a livelihood and running it coz if you are doing that you have not experienced life.

It’s about the small experiences that make you what you are today. Those moments of happiness, excitement, sadness and despair that stays fresh in your mind as memories.

Money can certainly bring you ways to buy happiness but not of the kind where the true feeling of people around reflects their care for you.

Unfortunately many of us find ourselves trapped in the loop of trying to live up to the expectations of the reality around us rather than finding the true meaning of what life holds.

We need to remind ourselves that we are born as humans to experience life that happens only once. Unless you are the one who believes in reincarnation but won’t have any recollection of your past lives.

I told my friend that he cannot make himself adapt forcefully and he needs to observe, learn and accordingly adapt to situations. Time is a teacher which makes one learn the hard way when we are not ready to learn the truth which is in front of us most of the time.

He is not alone in his quest to make himself equipped to face the reality. We all do in our ways, it’s just that some are good at hiding it and some are not.

What we should not be forgetting is that we live only once and the experiences of life remain with us for a lifetime….

A Question

I don’t know if you guys remember about my rants about how I hate being in situations where I have to be dependent on others and they don’t even care how it ends up.  Apparently I have fallen in these situations many times and most of the times it has happened out of choice.

It made me think, if there was a reason why I ended up in these situations? Am I suppose to don the superhero’s cape and come out of the situation winning?  In any given situation one needs to know what needs to be done but if one has to depend on a third person (who don’t really make attempts/care of the outcome) to get it done then it’s really tough to come out winning in such situations.

Its’ like you know what you want to do but you cannot exactly do it because you are dependant on other people to take care of that.  I am at my wits end on how one should come out winning in such situations.

Any thoughts to share?

LIFE

Note:  This post can be a bit boring.  So if you want to quit, do it now.  Do check the last lines before getting out of here.

It is so strange that even though the blog title refers to life, not a single post has been written on life.  Today, I am going to write one.

Observing life and experiencing it has taught me so much that I think, I can become a philosopher or a motivational speaker.

My personal favorite is of becoming a saint.

Life has always intrigued me.  My own and other people lives too.  I always wondered what it meant.

Childhood is one of the best stages of life.  As a child, everything we do evokes joy and no amounts of punishment takes away that mischievous smile from our face.  No wonder we all want to be a child again.

Being a curious child, I always asked questions (like the Paresh Rawal from Judaai) and sometimes answer question with a question.  What bothers us most are the questions of which answers we cannot find.  Then there are times when we ask the wrong questions.  Only time will provide us with an answer if there is one.

As we grow up, we realize that life is not all about having fun, it does have its share of suffering too.  We suffer from our own negative thoughts, our needs and wants, from others and the society.

Everything that we want comes down to a choice that in itself  is not easy to make.  A choice in living the life we want or let others dictate.  Choice between freedom & responsibility.

We all have our little desires of what we want in life.  It fills us with a sense of accomplishment & joy when we do achieve it.  Then its time to wish for a new desire and make it happen.

Fear at times makes us do things that we regret later.  This happens when we are uncertain/desperate about achieving our goals.

We fear when we are not prepared, not willing to accept decisions that go against us.

Not everyone dreams comes true plunging them into the dark or take the lonely path in search of their own self where they would rise again from the ashes.

If things don’t work out we term it as failure.  The reality is sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t but calling it failure is a mistake.  We fail to see what we have learned.  Failures are practice shots for success.

Life is about what you make out of it.  The hard part of life is accepting the truth which comes in many forms and the easy part is to live life like there is no tomorrow.

I have realized that life is not a mystery, we are.  We come to know more about ourselves as we move ahead.  We live an adventurous life but seldom do we realize that.

In the end what matters is the journey and not the destination…..

Last Lines:  Wishing you all a belated Happy Christmas and a Happy New Year :)